“Confidence isn’t about walking in a room and thinking you are better than everyone, it’s walking in and not having to compare yourself to anyone at all.”
I saw this quote and knew I had to write about confidence and clutter. So many people I know and work with who struggle with clutter, also struggle with confidence; the confidence to set boundaries, the confidence to let people see their mess, the confidence to live boldly and believe in themselves and that they CAN.
Having a cluttered house does not mean you need to be ashamed. You can be confident AND have a mess. It's totally normal to have accumulated more than you can handle and there is no shame in that. The next step is to pluck up the courage and the confidence to start taking small actions towards change.
And even if you haven't gotten very far on your decluttering journey, you can still invite people over, you can start setting healthy boundaries, and you can start prioritizing self care and healthy habits. You just have to get a little brave, a little vulnerable, and a little more honest.
If you feel like your life on hold, it is not on hold because your house is a mess. Your life is on hold because you've decided to put it on hold. Yes, maybe your house is too cluttered right now to host a wedding in your backyard. Maybe it's too crowded or start that remodel right now. But you CAN host a game night. You can run a marathon (your clutter has nothing to do with that). You can shuffle things around enough to fix that broken shelf. YOU are all that is stopping you.
And you do not need to have your house in order to feel at peace or to be happy. Clutter does of course cause stress, but you can choose to not play the comparison game. You can choose to be proud of yourself for the things you are doing. Then look to how you can make the change you desire in your home. And when you're not decluttering, look at how you can serve others (and yourself) even in the chaos.
“Confidence isn’t about walking in a room and thinking you are better than everyone, it’s walking in and not having to compare yourself to anyone at all.”
I hope this post resonated with you and made you feel seen. Remember, you are not alone. You are not the only one going through this. You are good enough no matter how your house looks today. Take each day as a new opportunity to be your best self (and to throw away and donate a few more things).
You got this.
I'm rooting for you.
All my love and prayers,
Elena
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