Today, I'm thinking about all those struggling with their mental health, depression, and thoughts of suicide. Clutter can be a huge emotional trigger for people and I wanted to take a moment to talk about some thoughts heavy on my heart. Here are some things to think about in relation to clutter and mental health:
1️. Your clutter does not define you.
If you are struggling with clutter and depression and/or suicidal thoughts, know that your clutter does not make you a bad person. Your clutter is not something to be ashamed of. Your clutter does not mean anything about who you are. It's just an issue in your life that needs to be worked on, just like a physical illness or a problem at work. It's something to work on, NOT something to beat yourself up about.
2️. You are not alone.
There are lots of people struggling with the same things as you. There are people who love you despite your mess (and would love if you invited them over to hang out). And, there are people that would love to help you get out of your mess if and when you're ready (I'm one of them).
3️. Being clutter-free doesn't guarantee happiness.
Often times we're waiting to be happy until we reach that goal or get out of that bad situation. But the truth is, once you've arrived, you may find you feel about the same. So don't wait for anything to be content. Look for the reasons to be happy and grateful right where you are. That doesn't mean you have to put on rose colored glasses and force yourself to smile when you feel like sh*t. But it DOES mean you have permission to relax and just be right now exactly as things are.
FOR ALL OF US:
4. We can show less judgement and more love to make a MASSIVE difference in the lives of others.
You never know what someone is going through.
When you step into someone's home for the first time, no matter what it looks like, be kind.
When your friend or relative isn't ready to let something go, don't make them feel bad.
When someone doesn't want your gift or is ready to let it go, don't pressure them to keep it or "be grateful". Don't take it personal.
When someone doesn't have the emotional or physical energy to clean or tidy, be patient.
Remember we all have feelings. We all need love. Be kind. You never know how a small act of kindness or a moment's pause before speaking could make the difference in the life of another.
*If you are struggling with hoarding disorder, depression, or suicidal thoughts, please see a mental health professional right away. However if you are already seeing a therapist/professional and want some additional help decluttering your home, mind, tech, or productivity systems, I would love to be an additional resource for you.
Comment below something that someone has said or done to hurt your feelings or make you feel ashamed of your clutter AND something that someone has done to make you feel accepted or loved.
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